This is why you must add DM relays to your list... The incognito becomes active by default and no one can see who you are talking to. nostr:nevent1qqsx8g553v99e6559lrg9sa6vv79spfl7mutgsnlydpkp7a8vw4a5ecpzemhxue69uhkummnw3ex2mrfw3jhxtn0wfnj7q3q64r4kfyyre2w2yy85zdsvlyk8xl2rj99xqjk4r65zfvfeqycu8zqxpqqqqqqzpyvsmq