ah yeah, i might make it so if the relay doesn't have the follow/mute list of the owner followed users that it just allows them at first... the client will probably put a "hidden events" thing and if they see it oh well, for the beginning, but once they do modify either list it will work fully properly i could even make it so as part of an infrequent step in the garbage collector it refilters the event store to prune off all events from muted users and mutes of follows with the exception of followed users events that tag muted users (because fuck muted users haha)