{"id":"1c9b40aea03a642e11bc760041c32a30ee2f5a3af0e2e5551bfd38d26a164baa","pubkey":"1afe0c74e3d7784eba93a5e3fa554a6eeb01928d12739ae8ba4832786808e36d","created_at":1728069967,"kind":1,"tags":[],"content":"Every time I start feeling like a victim I remember the car crash analogy. \n\nImagine you are blindsided by a drunk driver. Your legs are shattered. Your pelvis is shattered. Ligaments torn from your bone. You are in immense pain.\n\nAs you’re laying there you can’t stop reflecting on your bad luck. None of this was your fault. You were obeying the rules of the road. It’s the drunk drivers fault. He is the one to blame. He deserves to be in prison.\n\nTrue. \n\nIt’s not your fault. You are a victim. \n\nBut no matter how unfair, no one can relearn how to walk for you. You must do that yourself. Even if everyone agrees that the drunk driver was in the wrong and a court orders him to make full restitution… he still can’t do the work to heal you and bring you back into good health. \n\nOnly you can do that. \n\nSo yes things happen. \n\nThings that are not your fault. \n\nEspecially when you are young. \n\nBut at some point you have to stop dwelling on it and get up and learn to walk again.","sig":"d19f360006e5159df2ec0ebcc5156b870c48dca8b9cd5737c64b9ff40f74a7f48fadb2d32c0bde7687a154a82347b106fb8d790e78ddcea61be347836f726bc6"}